How the love of my life and I struggle to keep our love strong

Friday, July 15, 2011

Time difference

Hello, friends!

I'm very grateful for the suggestions for presents. All your ideas are very helpful and very important to me and I value them a lot.

I'm kind of sad, frustrated and angry right now because my girlfriend got online while I was taking a nap, so I didn't get to chat with her. Time difference is another problem we have to face. She gets online at night using her mother's phone (I think she has one of the AT And T cell phones that do tethering or something like that, I'm not sure... I don't want to lie, but I think it has Android in it) and her mom comes late from work. Unfortunately, that means that to chat with her sometimes I have to stay up till very late and then be a zombie at work in the morning. I try to take naps to compensate, but sometimes she gets online during one of my naps, like it happened today.

She doesn't have a normal internet connection or a landline phone. She can't get good service where she lives. Perhaps she could get a cheap mobile phone (ie.: not one of the AT and T phones like her mom has, but maybe one of the att prepaid ones I guess) so she could have a number I could call to at any time. I'm sure I could get a decent international calling plan to talk with her 30 minutes a night when she can't get online.

Anyway, her mom might have the day off tomorrow, which means I'll be able to chat with her during the day and for a longer time. Wish me luck, everyone!

Since I know she won't be getting online now, I'm going to sleep. Good night!

24 comments:

  1. I'm sorry that didn't work out for you, man.

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  2. In the "Hagakure the secret code of samurai" Yamamoto says that one of the most important thing in life is sleeping, and even Schopenhauer wrote an aphorism about sleeping. Every time that you fall asleep, that time is a borrow from Death. More you borrow from her, and more you will live. ;) So sleeping is fundamental to make choice and work well :)

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  3. Must be a lot of trouble to keep in contact with her everyday. My ex-girlfriend used to go on some kind of family vacation at the end of every year and she'd just call me once every week or so to make sure I'm alive.

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  4. Good luck with it. I hope she can get a cheap prepaid phone ;-)

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  5. I say cheap mobile phone is the best idea, it helped me in a similar situation :)

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  6. This feels bad. Thing is problems will always come up, in long distance relationships, key is to dodge them efficiently. Have you tried recording something for her? You could tell her how much you miss her etc on camera, and send it to her, this way you're keeping some sort of contact. Hope I helped

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  7. It's always rough with distance and time keeping you apart. But if you find someone that is right for you, suffer through it, it will be so much better in the end!

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  8. Time zones tend to suck in all facets of life, I say we abolish them.

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  9. Gotta stay positive man, there's always a way!
    I agree with stone computer... If you wanna make it work try and push through it! We aren't in the same situation, but I know that we've experienced a somewhat same frustration.

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  10. Must be very difficult for you both to communicate.

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  11. have you tried the uberman sleep schedule?

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  12. Long distance is not easy, kudos for trying so hard to make it work. I would suggest trying to help her out with the phone or internet issue. Maybe buying her a phone or helping her get one? AT&T has a lot of phones that tether to computers to allow them internet access. You could even get her a tablet or phone that has internet on it.

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  13. What doesn´t kill you, makes you stronger. The same happens with love.

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  14. prepaid phone will be the best way

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  15. Don't worry there is always a way! Love is powerful and if you don't lose it, nothing is impossible :)

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  16. what a post, prepaid is way cheapest!

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  17. Yeah, a phone would be a good present. ;p

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  18. Ah, now HERE is one of the major stressors of a long-distance relationship. All I can tell you is the advice I usually give:

    Discipline and self-control.

    Seriously, all you CAN do is figure out how to work your schedule around the time gap. Where is the best place that the both of you can compromise (you'd hear that a lot from me when it comes to relationships, that and two other c-words: clear communication) and talk. It might be as clear-cut as when you go to bed/when she wakes up, or vice versa, or whatever have you...

    In the end, the one question that should always be at the forefront of your mind should be "Is she worth it?" If she is, it should be no trouble for you to find the discipline and self-control to do what needs be done.

    Strange how that can apply to more than relationships...

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  19. Sorry about your situation man. LaezE Boy's suggestion is a good idea. It takes a lot of getting used to but I think you will find it worthwhile in the end :D.

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  20. i dont wanna sound rude, but i hope you 2 are having virtual or at least phone sex. sex is truly the "tie that binds"
    good luck and much love.

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  21. Try the Uberman Sleep Cycle. You'll be awake for most of the day, but still really well rested.

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  22. Im sorry for you man, long distance relationships are hard. How much is the time difference? Its disappointing, sometimes you wait all day long to talk to your significant other, only to find out that the only moment you arent paying attention, is when the other person was available and you missed the chance. Hope everything turns out ok for you. You sound like a nice guy.

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  23. Everyday contact is tough. Real tough.

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