Long distance relationship

How the love of my life and I struggle to keep our love strong

Friday, June 15, 2012

So near, so far

Hello, friends!

Still not back to a normal schedule, but here's a new update.

I was talking to a coworker the other day and he was telling me about something I had never thought about. This guy is from India and there's a girl he knows that he really likes; he also told me that she really likes him back. Everything would be perfect for them... except that since they are from different castes they'll never be able to be together.

Now, I don't know exactly how the caste system works, but it made me sad knowing that these two people really loved each other and there was something stopping them from being together. I know my girlfriend is really far away, but one day we'll be together and we'll stay together forever. This guy, my coworker, gets to see the girl he likes all the time knowing that it's an impossible thing.

I don't know if he could elope with her or something, I wasn't sure if it was polite to ask, but I sincerely hope that love prevails.

Do you know of other cases of impossible love? I'd be particularly interested to see comments of situations like this that actually had a happy ending.

Monday, April 23, 2012

The Return of the Blog

Hello, friends!

It has been a long time since my last post, this is in fact my first post of 2012... I feel bad that I let so much time go by without making a post, but my job kept me very occupy (I'm working a lot of overtime). Fortunately, that changed today, and I'll be working a saner shift.

I'm still long-distance-dating my girlfriend, we still love each other very much and, hopefully, we'll be able to see each other before the end of the year.

Other than that, I plan to update more often than once every 4 months...

ps: thank you to all those that read my blog even though I haven't posted in so long. I hope you'll comment like you used to and that you'll forgive my absence.

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Happy new year!

Hello, friends,

I wish you all of you constant followers a very happy 2012. It is difficult for me thinking of a happy 2012 when I know there's very little chance of seeing my girlfriend at all next year. Nonetheless, I'll try to make the best of it.

In this coming year, try to be a better person each day. If everybody does that, then by the year 2098 maybe we can have a better world, haha.

Once again, very happy new year. Now let's go celebrate!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Merry Christmas!

Hello, friends!

I haven't updated in a very very long time and I'm sorry for that. Work has kept me extremely busy.

I just wanted to wish everybody merry Christmas. If you live in the western world, even if you are not a Christian, Christmas is a joyous time!

So, whatever you believe, I hope you have a wonderful time with those you love.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Aun't that an update?

Hello, friends!

I haven't posted in a while. I'm very busy at work because they decided they are going to make me work in another project: they haven't made me switch project, I'm actually working on two projects at the same time now... of course, I'm not getting any additional money on my paycheck for it. I might be able to work more overtime and use those extra hours to take some time off to visit my girlfriend at some point. Working 2 weeks of overtime is going to make me really tired, though. I'm already sleeping between 3 and 5 hours a day...

Anyway, here's some good news: as I mentioned in my previous post, my girlfriend is moving with her aunt soon (probably next week). I already listed some of the  good and the bad things, but I forgot to mention that this will mean reliable broadband internet for her. No more having to mess with 3G to get some decent signal! Besides chatting with me, she actually needs internet for college to do research and stuff (besides the fact that she might still pick an online college, but that's probably not going to happen).

Well, I think that's it for now. I'll try not to wait too long for another update!

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Get outta here, the party is over

Hello, friends!

I was going to make a post about how glad I am that you guys have been commenting on my posts and letting me know what you thought about the things I wrote and answering my doubts concerning relationship stuff.

"Why?" you ask? Because the latest comment tally added up to 500 of them. YES! 500 comments.

So why the title and why am I not making the post just about that?
Well, my girlfriend is going to permanently move in with her aunt, who lives closer to places where my girlfriend could potentially get a job.
She will also start to attend classes at college (and it's probably not going to be an online college).

While I'm very happy for her, this means she won't be able to visit. So even if she defeats her phobia of airports, she won't be flying to me any time soon.
As you know if you read previous posts, I can't visit her either, because I just switched jobs and I won't have vacations for quite a while (basically, a whole year).

It's very difficult thinking that I won't be able to see her for that long.

Monday, October 31, 2011

It just doesn't work

Hello, friends!

It just occurred to me that a lot of things have changed in just a few years. When I was growing up if we wanted to communicate with my aunt that lives in a different city, we had to talk fast on the phone, because long distance was very expensive. If we wanted to communicate something longer we'd have to write a letter, because it was impossible to afford a talk of more than 20 minutes. Letters took forever to arrive (that hasn't changed).
There were no fax machines, no internet (for the most part), no cellphones, no SMSs. Only rich people had computers.

Today we have email, Twitter, Facebook, Skype, webcams, netbooks, laptops, tablets, smartphones... We can contact anybody anywhere in the world. For those that don't have computers or internet connection there are internet caf├ęs. Long distance calls are quite cheap nowadays. Buying things online from China and getting them shipped home is not something out of the ordinary.

So we grew a lot closer as a world, but whenever somebody mentions they are in a long distance relationship the default answer is "it just doesn't work".

Lack of physical contact is annoying and it makes things more difficult, but isn't it time to revise that answer and adapt it to modern times? Long distance relationships were obviously a lot more difficult to keep not many years ago.

I communicate with my girlfriend pretty much every day now. We listen to each other's voice and we can record videos or take as many pictures as we want, in high definition. Long distance relationships are not what they used to.

So, I think that whenever you find someone that's in a long distance relationship, before giving the default answer of "it just doesn't work", be happy that they have someone that cares for them and that loves them. Some of them do work and technology helps a lot with that!